My interest in Intimate Partner Violence and Family Violence came out of my own lived experience of being in an emotionally abusive relationship. Like many who suffer through this degrading experience, I had no idea what was going on. Moreover, the culture that surrounded me at that time supported the notion of my partner having all of the power and me needing to submit to it. To cut a very long story very short, my husband sought help (of the Emotion-Focused (EF) kind) and eventually became part of the 5% who change. In fact, his change was so dramatic that I changed fields, completed a Master of Counselling and planted myself firmly at the Annandale Institute under the tutelage of Dr Webster and Dr Stapleton so that I could learn the ways! You see, when one person changes it is not just one person who changes; everyone around that person also benefits. This article was part of my qualification for the Graduate Diploma in Emotion-Focused Therapy. I wrote it because the statistics around IPV are ridiculously high and, in my view, more needs to be understood about the actual perpetrators to begin to bring about effective change.
Follow this link to read Deb’s article: The Good, The Bad & The Broken